Love is a universal emotion that has puzzled and fascinated humans for centuries, from the poets searching for the right words to try to encapsulate such a feeling, to the low-budget Hallmark movies with the same plot repeated 45,000 different times. Each end of the spectrum shows how love creates close bonds, and manifests itself in many ways. But what exactly happens to our brain when we fall in love? The psychology of love explains what this powerful emotion does, offering insight into how and why it shapes our lives. 

For instance, when a person experiences love, their brain releases dopamine, oxytocin, and serotonin, which are powerful neurotransmitters that carry signals to the brain. Dopamine is considered the reward hormone, while oxytocin promotes trust and connections when bonding with others. It is also released when people exercise and listen to music. Serotonin controls a person’s mood, as it allows a person to feel happier, calmer, and more focused. This ultimately creates a very positive experience for the brain. 

Psychologist John Bowlby believes that a child’s earliest attachments with caregivers influence their relationships for the rest of their lives. Mary Ainsworth later expands on Bowlby’s theory, stating that there are three types of attachment styles; secure attachment, anxious-avoidant attachment, and anxious-resistant attachment. Secure attachment is the healthiest form of attachment that a child has with their parents meaning they are receiving proper care that is necessary for them to grow and become a healthy functioning adult. Anxious-avoidant attachment is when a child wants their parents when they are left alone but when they come back they are still in distress. Finally, anxious-resistant attachment is when a child shows little comfort in the presence of their caregiver. Each of these attachment styles comes into play as more mature relationships arise.

Ultimately, love is an intense emotion that affects us biologically, and emotionally. By delving into these aspects of attachment we gain valuable insights into how love shapes our behaviors and relationships. This will help us to lead better lives making stronger connections with others. All in all, human existence is about loving one another, and by understanding how this happens we can love stronger.